I’ve had a moment. You know when you realise the reason you’re set to go do your teaching degree is not just due to the piles of school work you’ve helped your children ingest for the last five years? No. It’s also because of the other adult in the room. Believe me, it’s an eye-opening moment.
And it’s not because you’ve been teaching him anything. We’re not going over mitosis and meiosis. We’re not chewing the fat on French verb conjugations or the meaning of the word euphemism. The kids and I did that this busy school week.
No, my husband has been teaching me how to be a teacher – by sometimes being the naughtiest pupil in the class.
I didn’t realise this until recently. Because I am exceptionally slow. I mean, I always knew he was, argument-wise, a pain in the backside. I never realised the minutiae of his methods though. Basically, my husband doesn’t like to lose an argument. Surprise surprise. Which husbands do?
Still, for me, when I stumbled across one his methods in a book on classroom management, it was truly amazing. Classroom Behaviour, by Bill Rogers, And I only got the book sample.
To be specific, I read the words and thought, ‘Oh my God.’ Only I wasn’t the teacher – not the proper one. Not yet. That’s because I don’t have the teacher tools.
It was right at the beginning of the book too- so I guess it’s a classic example. The behaviour described is when you do, or say something, but follow it up with a distraction. Basically, if you focus the attention on something else, the other person soon forgets about the first thing that started it all. It’s called using primary and secondary behaviours.
Bill Rogers says this:
‘Sometimes the student, too, will use their secondary behaviours in a provocative way to “test” out the psychological, relational, “territory” of the classroom and their teacher. Such behaviour is sometimes used as a territorial posturing, particularly in males.’
This, apparently, is a real humdinger for classroom behaviour management. It can often cause a teacher to double-check themselves – which apparently is the death knell of the managed classroom. Teachers have to be vigilant to see and swat these secondary behaviours away like incoming balls, the author, Bill Rogers warns.
I was reading it and feeling my jaw drop at the same time. Son of a bitch. Sorry to the people who don’t like the swearing. I love my husband – and I feel ready for school.
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